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NSFW Sunday Desires Lesbian Friends With Pros | Autostraddle


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Apparently it’s just
“not that simple” for males and women to be “friends with advantages” or even have “no strings attached
.” This concept is a hot topic right now, as a result of nation’s excitement concerning “No Strings With Benefits,” the remake of the Natalie Portman/Ashton Kutcher initial from earlier in the day this present year, this time featuring Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake.

But what about lesbians?

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Once upon a time I’d a practice of getting into these circumstances with “straight ladies” — the absence of strings was implicit into the connection because clearly a right girl was not looking a relationship with a girl. Particularly if she currently had a boyfriend. Most of the crisis, the gender, and not one associated with devotion! Its magical/excruciating.

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Although I caution against pursuing or
falling deeply in love with
or
confessing your own love for a right woman
and have never done this me, direct ladies are excellent enjoyable as friends-with-benefits as long as you will keep how you feel contained in a safe little package. “within box-office,” as we say.

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But
pals with benefits between two real-live lesbians ladies
or perhaps you learn, bisexual or otherwise interested-in-ladies females? Many report that it is as well tough because women have actually plenty of feelings, but it’s been recognized to occur. Possibly. Often two women simply want to have some fun! (like
Whitney Mixter
)

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But, in articles which requires the question “why can there be no feminine type of grindr?”,
WildCherry argues
:

“generally speaking homosexual guys try relaxed sex like a duck to drinking water. Straights keep their particular inside casual gender limits but behind the scenes it is rather often men operating these experiences. When it is kept as much as 2 ladies, things become less feverish.”

At Examiner.com,
The Lesbian union publisher has many advice about getting friends with benefits
, for example “while you are over her need for you to be devoted or call this lady frequently, simply saying “I said I didn’t desire something major,” doesn’t you from the hook.”

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Ashley at Diffuse5.com
has also some tips
from a lesbian perspective but more to the point, Dara Nai at AfterEllen discovers an approach to talk about gender on AfterEllen with her writeup on

Friends With Benefits

titled
All Of Us Want Friends With Benefits
:



Buddies with Advantages goes whenever Harry Met Sally one much better. In the place of inquiring whether men and women could be merely pals, it thinks they’re able to today. Issue in 2011 is: Can buddies have sexual intercourse and never fall in really love, or even worse, screw-up the friendship? Really, sh-t howdy, lesbians being asking our selves that for decades.”

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In September 2009,
This new York circumstances published an article called “what exactly do Women wish”
with what converts females on, focusing initially on a report of feminine desire done by highly regarded researcher Meredith Chivers. She did tests which involved watching several types of porno, and found that although men reacted genitally in “classification certain” steps (straight guys like straight porn, an such like) that:


“regardless their own self-proclaimed sexual orientation, [women] showed, generally, strong and swift genital arousal after display provided men with guys, females with ladies and women with men.”

Furthermore, with regards to involved discrepencies between the subject’s reported arousal (that they had written about) as well as their real arousal (that has been calculated by fancy medical products connected to numerous key areas of the body):


“…with the ladies, particularly the direct ladies, mind and genitals seemed hardly to belong to the same individual. The indication through the plethysmograph therefore the keypad weren’t in much agreement. During shots of lesbian coupling, heterosexual ladies reported significantly less exhilaration than their vaginas shown; watching homosexual men, they reported much much less; and watching heterosexual sex, they reported much more. Among lesbian volunteers, the two indication converged when women made an appearance throughout the screen. However when the movies presented merely guys, the lesbians reported less wedding compared to the plethysmograph recorded.”

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Your whole post is fascianting, in fact, however the foremost part would be that this research could “shift ways women regard their particular ability to get aroused.” Or maybe not:


“…sometimes Chivers spoke just as if the particular forest was not noticeable at all, like the complexities had been a sign less of intrinsic intricacy than of social efforts to manage feminine eros, of social constraints with left women’s lust dampened, distorted, inaccessible to understanding. “numerous cultures have actually quite tight rules overseeing female sexuality,” she stated. “if it sex is relatively passive, then precisely why many rules to regulate it? Just why is it thus scary?” There was clearly the implication, within her words, that she might never ever illuminate the woman topic because she couldn’t actually see it, the information she and her co-workers collect might-be misleading, might express just the creations of tradition, and therefore the woman perceptions may be top from the underlying reality. There clearly was the intimation that, at their key, women’s sexuality is probably not passive at all. There clearly was the chance your long reputation of concern have buried the character of women’s crave also seriously to unearth, to review.”

Time while searching for links about subject I ended up at this syllabus for a category labeled as
College Intercourse & Strategy: Buddies with Benefits
and somehow from there wound up on this list of
Get Ask Alice
information questions about LGBTQ problems and I also think you want that too. It really is like we are having a journey online collectively.

In closing, somebody else thinks
pals with benefits is actually clinically impossible
, nevertheless from everything I study from it, i do believe this somebody is really inaccurate.

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